People who only vaguely know of tantric massage often equate tantric massage with sexual massage. But while tantric massage can indeed be very sensual and does wake up the body’s sexual energies, sexual gratification is not the point of tantric massage.
The performance of tantric massage ideally has the following goals:
The act of giving and receiving a tantric massage is a very intimate act, as it can leave the receiver in a very vulnerable state. Because of the trust and openness that tantric massage requires, it is very important that the giver of the massage is someone that the receiver absolutely trusts and is comfortable with. This is why tantric massage is often done between lovers to enhance the sexual experience.
In performing tantric massage, there are five points that both the giver and the receiver should keep in mind. These points are the following:
1. Tantric massage, just like any form of massage, has physical health benefits and the receiver can derive tremendous sensual pleasure from it. Both the giver and the receiver should remember that tantric massage uses pleasure to open the body to spiritual growth.
2. The giver of the tantric massage should perform the massage freely without expecting anything in return. On the other hand, the receiver of the massage should open him/herself to the effects of tantric massage without the necessity of reciprocation.
3. Sensual pleasure does not always equate to sexual pleasure. A session of tantric massage does not have to end up in actual sex.
4. There is no limitation as to what part of the body can be touched and how it is to be touched in tantric massage, as the body’s sensual receptors are not limited to the genitals. The experience itself can be very liberating. The giver and the receiver, however, should agree on what is comfortable and what is not comfortable between them.
5. Tantric massage utilizes specific massage and breathing techniques. It would be very useful to learn them.
Both the giving and the receiving of tantric massage is a worthwhile experience. It leads to the path not only of pleasure but also of healing, self-awareness and harmony.